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KEY LOVE INDICATORS.
50 Clever Thoughts That Can Save Your Relationship
Non-Fiction, ca. 198 pp.
‘A long-term love affair is an interpersonal obstacle course, which is so difficult that many couples stumble at the hurdles.’ Oskar Holzberg
Orientation for all couples who want to stay together
How does a lifelong active relationship work?
Oskar Holzberg has been a relationship therapist for more than twenty years and during this time he has been able to observe what keeps a love together – or tears it apart. Patterns appear that make life very difficult for many people. The columnist for the women’s magazine Brigitte summarised them in a pointed and humorous manner, titling them ‘Key Love Indictors’. In this book, he adds longer, fundamental texts on sex, happiness expectations, communication, bonds and love.
What is it that successful couples do right on their way to a harmonious and long term relationship? Why do breath-taking romances turn into battlefields after the wedding? Why does one build up an inner distance from one another when all everyone really wants is closeness and love? Is that which I experience normal? Oskar Holzberg provided 50 inspiring answers.
Key Love Indicators such as:
A relationship never stands still - Sex is rarely about sex - The solution is that there is no solution - Understanding does not mean agreeing - Excessive demands lead to demands - Those who don’t separate, will be separated - Being nice is not love - Being responsible is responding -
That which brings couples together also brings them apart again - Lovers are not psychics -
Only the present can be resolved - Confrontation is the desire for closeness - Discussed does not mean decided;
Oskar Holzberg, born in 1953, studied Psychology and German in Hamburg. He is a qualified psychotherapist, supervisor, lecturer and author. Relationship therapy is the central focus of his work. He has been writing on psychological subjects since 1984. He is one of the most-published psychologists in the country. He has published three books. Oskar Holzberg is married, has three grown up children and lives in Hamburg.
Oskar Holzberg, geboren 1953, studierte Psychologie und Germanistik in Hamburg. Er ist niedergelassener Psychotherapeut, Supervisor, Dozent und Autor. Die Paartherapie ist ein Schwerpunkt seiner Arbeit. Seit 1984 schreibt er zu psychologischen Themen. Er hat bislang drei Bücher veröffentlicht. Der Autor ist verheiratet, hat drei erwachsene Kinder und lebt in Hamburg.